Monday, 18 February 2013

EAT, PRAY, LOVE

20 February 2013
I went to go see my GP and I booked my hospital bed at MediClinic Louis Leipoldt. I got my pregnancy journal from the hospital. I decided on my permanent Gynecologist. Dr Snoek LOL I found it too funny. He is the only Gynecologist near the hospital that is on the Key Care Network. I get to visit the labour ward Saturday at 11am. I got a whole lot of information brochures. I phoned my medical aid. As soon as I meet Dr Snoek then I can get my ICD code and my authorization nr.

Mediclinic Louis Leipoldt is one of the oldest and best-known private hospitals in the Western Cape.  The hospital offers a magnificent panoramic view of Cape Town's Table Mountain and is conveniently situated within easy reach of major arterial traffic routes, Cape Town International airport, Cape Town city centre and other large, commercial centres. General visiting hours: 15:00 - 16:00, 19:00 - 20:00.

I found a new forum where there are South African moms like me but it doesn't beat BabyCentre.






 









18 February 2013
Where do I start with explaining my weekend? How do I vent in the kindest possible way? I always had everything in my life under control and always saw myself  reaching huge success. Looing back now where did it all just disappear? I am 24 and I feel 80. Can it be that relationships damage a person this badly? Growing up people always told me what a beautiful girl I am and even in my teenage years there was never a lack of interest and people telling me how pretty and intelligent I am. What made me start becoming ugly? What made me start thinking that I wasn't worth anything? Had I been told too many times that I wasn't worth anything or not beautiful by the handful of people that was in  my life by mistake? You always see on TV how people look back on their life and photos and the drama gets intense but here I am a typical South African 24 year old and I wonder where did I waste my beautiful years. Why is it that I have all these bad voices telling me that I am not good enough?  Life is about choices - why did I choose to have these people in my life? This blog post is very personal and it is a post I wouldn't have written if I didn't feel the way I did. Like I have written in previous posts, I am a 24 year old single mother most of the time. I have a 3 year old son and I am currently pregnant. Like most relationships mine is off and on again. For the most part I go through my days being told I am not good enough, I think stupid or that I am not loved. To most people it seems like something that wouldn't affect them but to people that can relate they will know how it feels. When you are in a relationship you go through ups n downs but your partner should never be that up and down that runs through your head. One minute he loves you and the next you get told that he doesn't and that he doesn't want you around. When you pack your stuff to leave then you get stopped but if you just take yourself then you are allowed to go. What happened to having a normal life? The one where you stay in your small house so you can make ends meet, you look after your kids and greet your loving partner by the doo when he comes from work. When you are 24, unemployed and pregnant. Where do you go to? How do you start your life over. Yes, family is reluctant but willing to help but the help is offered with a catch phrase. For example, "you can live here BUT it will financially ruin us". How do you move to your parents after they said that? My family was quick to take my furniture to my new "residence" in their tiny car but they aren't willing to help me get it back. Somehow everything has gone sour and causes unhappiness. Love is the one thing that makes a person stay with someone no matter how they hurt your feelings but when is it time to turn your back? Is it fair for someone to tell you all these hurtful things? If you don' want to be in a relationship then rather break up than to hurt the other person. My parents have always been very interfering, God bless them for helping me when I needed it whether they did it out of love or obligation but the way they try to run my life and treat me like a child. Here I am, I am trying to sort out my life or the situation I am in to the best of my ability  The last thing I need now is their resentment or negative behavior. I can't let my son see how bad a man treats me because he will grow up thinking its okay to treat women that way. I am so incredibly hurt.

Friday, 15 February 2013

PACKING THE HOSPITAL BAG

Here is a shorter hospital list:


For Mother

 
Sleepwear
 
Bathrobe
 
Socks
 
Slippers
 
Maternity underwear
 
Nursing bra
 
Breast pads
 
Change of clothes and comfortable shoes to wear home
 
Toiletries, including toothbrush
 
Hair band, if applicable
 
Lip moisturizer
 
Sanitary napkins
 
Massage oils or lotions
 
Breath mints and snacks
 
Relaxation materials: books, magazines, music
 
Eyeglasses, if applicable
 
Cell phone and list of important phone numbers
 
 

For Coach

 
Watch with a second hand to time contractions
 
Camera/video camera and film/tape
 
Toiletries, including toothbrush
 
Change of clothes
 
Snacks and reading material
 
Dollar bills or change for vending machines
 
Cell phone/prepaid phone card
 
List of important phone numbers
 
 

For Baby

 
Newborn diapers
 
Receiving blankets
 
Newborn clothes
 
Socks or booties
 
Infant hat
 
Infant car seat

SIMPLIFYING MY LIFE

I need to simplify my life in next week. It's Friday and the house will be a mess the weekend so bugger this. next week I am going to simplify this Wendy house. It is not too small but it stays untidy.
I am going to try and be my creative self while being unemployed and MAKE things for the Wendy house that will make it more bearable for me to live in it. I am wondering who would be interested in reading about it but I guess there's a lot of people that would want to make cute home DIY things, right? My partner has to help me make the Wendy house livable in this month still. I have googled how to fix up a Wendy house and to make it cute inside buy nothing really came up that would help me.



 

WHAT ARE YOU THANKFUL FOR?


 
 
I am thankful for my family and that my parents are still here with me.
I am thankful for my son who is such a character a 3 years old.
I am thankful for my tiny baby in me because I saw a picture of an angel baby yesterday and couldn't stop thinking about it.
I am thankful that my son can have both parents while growing up and
I am thankful that even though I don't have my own house I can keep in mind that we will be okay one day because my partner has a good job.

I was on Baby Centre and I saw this topic as a Journal entry and I thought to myself that everything seems so horribly dark - let's see what I can be grateful for.

MOOMIE AND MOM2BE

You are going to be so happy that you are going through my blog. This little bored homemaker is googling everything to do with babies and free stuff as usual. Guess what I found out today for all my South African readers (Sorry America and Taiwan friends). Subscribe to Mediclinic Baby and you get the cutest Pregnancy Journal for FREE. Subscribe to the South African Forum MOOMIES and you get FREE MOM2BE Samples. I have signed up for FREE shake samples too. Click here to request a free mom2B shake sample (Let me know when it is outdated. Join the Bennett's Mommy and Baby club and you get free Bennett's samples or go the this site and follow the links for your samples. If you have not received your sample in a month's time please call Nativa at 012 664 7110.
 
 
 
 

How To Get Free Samples by Mail (RSA and Overseas)  

Get a Ton of Free Samples in Your Mailbox

1. Google free samples in your country
2. Sign up for newsletters/forums where you get free stuff
3. Email your favourite companies and ask how to go about requesting free samples
4. Do surveys for samples or chances to win things eg. JUSTPLAY
5. You get Food samples, Baby samples, cosmetic samples, beauty samples
6. Sign yourself in for the sample and your family I DID!
 
What To Do With Your Free Samples
When you receive a free sample by mail my first suggestion to you is to rip it open and use it! While free samples can save you money, they're also a lot fun to receive and use right away.
If you find yourself overwhelmed with free samples you get in the mail or you've received one you just don't have a use for right now, I suggest that you put them away somewhere that you won't forget about them. This way you can pull them out as you need them.
I love to use my free samples when I travel. Tiny deodorants and free shampoo samples are some of my favorite free samples to take when I travel. They take up much less space and are often just the amount I need.
If you receive a free sample by mail that you don't have a use for then you can give it to friends or family or donate it to your local homeless shelter.

MEDI-CLINIC BABY

Medi-clinic baby programme is an exclusive programme that offers support to expectant parents and every mother and family with a new baby at a Medi-clinic hospital.

You can register on their website http://www.mediclinic.co.za/ to become part of the medi-clinic baby programme from 12 weeks of pregnancy.

As part of the Medi-clinic programme you will receive a pregnancy journal from your doctor's room or call client services. (I HAVE RECEIVED IT)

You receive weekly e-mails regarding baby's development during pregnancy and up to their third year (I haven't received any emails yet, and I've register before the end of last year)

You can call the Client services for a tour of the Maternity ward (DONE)

Ante natal classes (Extra costs)

Mother and baby bag with everything you might need for the first few days in hospital.

You get a medi-clinic baby beanie.

They can assist you with the first feeds and baths.

You can have then place a photo of your baby on their website.

You get a footprint certificate

They can help you with birth registration if you are married and have the same surname.

You get a celebration surprise.

Baby receives first immunizations against TB and polio in hospital, with a health card for future clinic visits.

24 hour helpline
 

RIP OFFS

Have you ever bought anything and thought to yourself that this company just rips people off? How many people don't spend R150 for hair dye and never complain even if it is the biggest lad of nonsense. It's from the smallest thing to the biggest thing and every Rand adds up. How many sachets of milk haven't I thrown away because it gets sour after 1 day and has a funny taste. How many times haven't I coloured my hair and had to buy more and more dye because it fades so quickly or it doesn't take properly. The thing that has made me the most angry is I bought a Me-a-mama Ballerina pants for R399 and I washed it about 3 times and it looks like a rag. It's discoloured yet faded and totally disproportioned. I emailed me-a-mama and told them I want a refund. Today I decided no more just letting things go. Every year a person throws away thousand of rands in products. From now on if I am not satisfied I am going straight to the supplier. I think more people should do this.